Intimacy

What does intimacy mean to you?

Relationships, intimacy and relating.

We seem to want a relationship and intimacy but find ourselves not relating when we are in one or when we are trying to get into a relationship.

Firstly, Do you know what you want in a relationship?

If your answer is one that feel as though it has no intimacy then you most likely won’t be relating to self hence not to your partner.

What do you intimately want from your partner?

Can you provide what you want for yourself?

Looking forward to your intimately sharing of your self here>

thank you

Namaste

Terryann El

What do you think about the names GateWay Method or The Way Out Method??

I am putting together a system to reveal aspects of the bodymind that we are not in touch with. What do you think of GateWay Method as the name of a system like that or The Way Out Method?

What thoughts do you have?

thanks for your feedback

terryann

April 2010

Hello Everyone,

For the next 3 months sessions I will be traveling. If you need a distance session please contact me at leurbanretreat@gmail.com

I will be in the Montreal office May 19, June 16 , July 7-Aug 25, September 20-22, October 25-27, December  15-22.

BreakThrough 1 Will be held on Nun’s Island in Montreal the weekend of the 21st of May.

Contact for the course in Montreal is Anel Kilchherr. Phone: 514.451.2684

For details on the Montreal course:

https://www.bodytalksystem.com/seminars/details.cfm?id=12758

For details on all other courses:

https://www.bodytalksystem.com/seminars/?yo=0&course=0&instructor=2761&course_m=0&course_y=0&continent=&country=&state=&city=

Brazil’s dates will be posted in the next month .

Thank you

Terryann

What’s New?

Le Urban Retreat website now has exercises that you can work on and then post your experiences, ask questions, and simply just do the work!

The work:

The Secret to Happiness

by Terryann Nikides

In my practice I often hear: “How can I create my reality?” and “I cannot be happy unless I have what I want or get control over my life.”

We feel as humans that as long as we have control we can be happy. Less understood or investigated is the concept of control. It is obvious that  “Control” is an absolute. We cannot have just a bit of control, the latter would presume that; at any moment we would spiral out of control.

We can, though, make choices  and our experience is just that: we do make choices even though we do not have control over the choices we make. Life, as we know it, involves  making those choices whether or not we know the outcome or from where our choices arise.

The root of our unhappiness comes from our expectations and believing that we can control  our choices so that  they meet our expectations.  Despite knowing better, we keep trying to control.  When we try to create our realities some things pan out while others never do.  All the while we conclude  that: one, what works is under our control; two, what does not work  needs to be controlled! A precocious correlation to say the least.

In the latter conclusion we audaciously ignore the unconscious, cultural, societal, familial, educational, and peer conditioning. Additionally, the unconscious seeks its own expression.

The unconscious is the part  of us that we cannot see like the iceberg that sunk the titanic. The tip of the iceberg does not look very ominous and seems easy to get a grasp of but we forget how much we do not know that influences our actions, behaviours and choices.

Another misconception is that we can just let go of control. If I had control then I could let go and go with the flow. Any one of us would stop experiencing what we do not enjoy, if we could, but we cannot. Once we feel pain we can cover it up, suppress it, run away from it, but it comes back to haunt us when we least expect it.

We are haunted by the shadows of the un-lived Self or aspects of the psyche that have been dismembered and  disposed of – albeit only seemingly . Socialization, a necessary part of the developmental process, fragments the completeness and wholeness of Self through the paradoxical “good and evil” “black and white” understanding of the mind. The Self seeks throughout our lifetime to re-assemble itself.

Each time something “triggers” us we are jolted into experiencing life in a painful way. The rejected aspects of Self that seek out our love and compassion come to life kicking and screaming vying for our attention.  They are like  disobedient little children seeking a parent to help them grow up and meet their  own needs.

So now what? How do we access the inaccessible- the unconscious.  The unconscious communicates with us cryptically, much like our dreams and the multitude of possible interpretations. The interpretations are not right or wrong but only represent possible reflections of what the unconscious is communicating. The interpretations of the unconscious shed light on aspects of Self that we have never seen before. In doing so we have a shift in  awareness or consciousness.

This shift in perspective sends shivers down our spine, a moment of euphoria, and a shift in our awareness about our selves and our experiences.  We see the world in a new light. The old perspective broadens to include what we have been excluding and rejecting for so long. The new perspective is like a breath of fresh air, we can breathe more freely, colours are heightened, we experience joy!

The things I know are: one, I know that if I could control the problem I would; but I do not know the problem so that is out. Two, if I knew what was keeping me in the same old problem then I would see it and get out of it.

Hence I have to find a way to get to a problem I cannot see. I also have a bunch of defences around the problem. How do I know that? Well give someone as resolution to a problem they keep repeating over and over again, combined with emotional attachments to the problem: then, give them several solutions to the problem. When there are emotions attached to the thoughts about the problem you will find we have a multitude of reasons, justifications, excuses, and “ya buts” to explain why we cannot get out of the rut they are in! If we could get out of the rut, that plainly is hurting us, – we would!

So, the question is how do we get through the defences we have built up around the unconscious wounds we have acquired in childhood.  The fragmented aspects of Self are the wounds we so effectively keep hidden from view.  The wounds cry out for us to hold and care for them the moment we are triggered and throws us into a struggle in life.

We have one should after another that struggle to push our pain and hurt away and at bay. We will blame whatever we can just to stop the hurt. We may suppress it or find a way to numb it but it is never gone. Where can it go?  Like a child starving can be put out of our sight the child never goes away.

The shoulds and should nots we hold dearly are part of the rigid walls that keep us from taking care of the starving child within us.  How can we dislodge the rigid stronghold that our defences have against revealing the child to us?  Simply, questioning in ways we have never dared to questions before.

To question the status quo leads us on a journey to a part of ourselves we never knew. Beliefs about life and how life should be that are meaningless. They only serve to keep the status quo. When the status quo no longer serves us we begin to question what we have valued and assumed to be the Truth. The rules that have led us to more struggle – the truth will set you free not imprison you in further suffering!

Exercise:

One question that arises often in practice is “Why do I keep making the same mistakes?”

The question that could trigger us to think outside the box is “How does it serve you to keep making mistakes?” “What is the payoff?”

This requires a pen, paper, and sitting down HONESTLY and writing a list of what you gain from making mistakes or whatever your rut is.

You can make a list for one of your addictions, habits, and/or neediness’ i.e. a behaviour you are driven to do. Identify something that you are compelled to do and cannot stop doing but would like to have a choice to do or not to do.

Then make a list of what you gain from this behaviour. What is the payoff every time you   behave in this way.

For example, one client used over-eating as an example.  She began to write the list of what she gains by over-eating, such as:“Comfort” “Love”, “Importance”, “Calm” “Relaxation” “Fun”, “Joy”, “Happiness”, “

Once you make your list, look at it closely.  You can see  that the list is a list of what you lack.

Next re-experience your driven behaviour, feel it as though you are doing it right now and then feel everything you gain from it, as in the example: love, comfort, importance. Really live the driven behaviour, how you cannot stop it and then really feel what you gain from the behaviour: such as love, comfort and so forth.

Now you should see that your  driven behaviour is dishonest and your addiction-(acknowledge this out loud to yourself. )

At this point just seeing that our driven behaviours are supplying us with something believe we lack, shifts our awareness. We shift from thinking we are just helpless victims of our addictions to seeing that we are fulfilling a goal that undermines us in the end. Of course there are many other goals we have. I look forward to hearing the goals you have found that you are addicted to achieving.

New Age Shop Soho, Hong Kong

Nydia and Angela in front of the New Age Shop, Soho, Hong Kong

Hi Everyone,

I was working in the New Age Shop in Hong Kong and will again in January. It was amazing to meet people from all over the world coming for Tarot readings and wanting to experience consciousness work. They actually asked for work to delve into the shadow so BreakThrough was on the menu!

A lovely surprise from some of the clients at the shop was praise for my readings!!! I was so honored to have had such a receptive audience.

Thank you a thousand fold to Jennifer at the New Age Shop as well as all her helpers! You made my experience truly memorable! See you in 2010 for tarot and BreakThrough.

Hong Kong

Here I am again in Hong Kong! The journey always proves to be one where I am thrown into an abyss and by some miracle a hand comes and pulls me out just in time!

I am staying in one of the signature high rise apartments that are seen throughout Hong Kong’s skyline. Though luckily enough I am staying on one of the outter Islands away from the hustle and bustle of Hong Kong’s central and Kowloon districts. The Island is Discovery Bay or DB as it is more commonly known.

I have been teaching BreakThrough and Tarot in different locations around the city to receptive and loving audiences!

I am now searching for a location to finally take a long awaited vacation! It has been 10 years since I have take a real vacation just for me. Of course I promise to catch up on my work and contact some of you that I have neglected. So Vacation yes and a bit of work in any case.

Love from Hong Kong

Remember that january 9and 10 2010 in SoHo Hong Kong I will be teaching BreakThrough 1 again!! Hope to see some of you there!

Where is Terryann Now!

I am in Hong Kong doing BreakThrough, BodyTalk and Tarot sessions online with people from all over the world!! Technology is almost as wonderful as energy work!

 

If anyone wants a session from the beautiful Island of Discovery Bay  in Hong Kong just let me know- I have some spaces left and so far all the sessions from here have been very powerful and profound.

 

Also I am doing the BreakThrough group on Skype – Monday at 7pm for Montrealers

Hong Kong Time will be: Tuesday at 8am -

Everyone is welcome to be online just download skype for free and add me to your list.

My skype name is Terryann Nikides

 

love to all

Terryann Nikides

Singapore- A place in my heart forever!

Hello Everyone,

 

I was in Singapore teaching BreakThrough at the awakening touch clinic- Marcio Ribiero’s clinic.  Wow what a great experience. Marcio, as always, was a wonderful host and enthusiastic student as were all of the students in the course.

Singapore seemed to bring out the most gentle and profound places in the darkness of the psyche that need awakening. I will always remember Singapore as a place of gentleness and deep wisdom for me.  I would like to thank all the students for bringing this work to Singapore and for adding their energy to the BreakThrough matrix.  I feel enriched to have spent time with these wonderful people!

Thank You

 

Terryann Nikides

 

 

Terryann is in Brazil till the 2nd of November

BreakThrough groups will be :

November 2      1pm-3pm  and   7pm-9pm

November 9       1pm-3pm           7pm-9pm

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In the new year

BreakThrougn Groups begin on the

18th of Jan   1pm-3pm   7pm-9pm

25th of Jan   1pm-3pm   7pm-9pm

1st of Feb       1pm-3pm     7pm-9pm

EVERYONE IS WELCOME!!!